Learning to live on your own after over 20 years of a family life is very challenging because you have more time to think and not always in a rational or positive way. You tend to find things complicated, or you get obsessed with things you did not even have time to think about when you were busy with your family. I therefore understand that some elderly people, and not even so elderly, tend to get very complicated when living alone.
Anyway, you may ask, what about my Adventurer? Well, after a lot of thinking and maybe also some persuasion from his partner, he decided to try and go back to his ex for the sake of his daughter's happiness beyond anything else and see how it works, but offered to stay in touch by email. What this entails, I'm not really sure. Of course, I was very disappointed, but then you never know what the future has in store for you. In the meantime, I need to find self-love, to concentrate on living fully in the moment and in simplicity, which is far from easy at the moment.
I had a very enlighting conversation with hubby who still thinks he owns me in a way. He told me he knew me so well that it is as if he had "made" me... Maybe that is what happens with old couples, but he also made me realise that "he thought that I needed to be protected" and there a lot of little light bulbs lit up in my mind. It took me all these years to understand why he behaved in such a "selfish" way, always taking decisions unilaterally, always considering me as "inferior" to the point were I thought he had no consideration for my needs or thoughts, and that he always handled me as if I was "fragile". I was just speechless and sooooo angry!!!! Now he wants to find a young girl to protect...I am disgusted!
I will post more pictures of my Irish Summer, with some surprises... Soon.
12 comments:
Congratulations on the move (in every sense of the term), my lovely!
I absolutely adore the view from your bedroom.
As for your ex-husband, you're clearly too much woman for him. I know when the time is right, the universe will send you a partner just as lustful and passionate and generous and loving as you... x
Hi Frenchy, it was nice to have your words out for us to see again. I knew you were busy, but I wanted to hear life laughter back in your voice.... The view from your window is similar to mines, It's so peaceful at times I just watch the rain skip off the tree leafs.. I shall be hanging around waiting fro your new unveiling...
Great to have you back!! So glad that you're getting settled . . . Looks like a perfect spot to meditate . . . :) Ciao
I'm glad to see you posting again. Congratulations on your move. That's a lovely view from your window, and I hope everything goes well.
Looking forward to hearing about your surprises! :-)
Cheeky Minx - You are so kind to me, lovely friend, I hope my prayers are heard, and yours too! Kiss!
1manview - It's nice to see that people actually missed me out there, who would have thought so! I will try to post again even with a busy schedule.
Snake - Yes, it is perfect, but now it is freezing, I have a bow window as well :) Hugs!
Hi Max - Thanks, I'm sure that things will fall into place as they do when you are on the right track.
I missed you all
I was very happy to see you posting again. Congrats on the move. The change is exciting and overwhelming I am sure.
I look forward to more from you.
Much love and support on this journey.
Drenchxoxo - Thank you, lovely!
Greetings! Your garden views are wonderful. Congratulations on your move and thank you for sharing steps of your journey with me. You do delight! xo - E.
Congratulations on your new beginnings. I love the photos of your view -- beautiful, just as your new beginnings will become.
EllaGirl and TemptingSweets - Thanks!
Wow!!! What stunning photos!! And congrats on the move!!!
theworldaccordingtowomen - Hello, well thanks for stopping by and commenting!
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